“But I might get rejected” What is Pulling Out Of your Comfort Zone? It is the only true way to grow.
Indeed, you might get pulled out, and Oh No The “What if” Happened!! You might get your hopes up only to find them dashed. You might decide on where you want to go, and then not get there. You might fall in love with a vision of the future and then discover it doesn’t happen.
What is one of your fears that is holding you back from really going after what you want? Is it being rejected, or feeling foolish? I thought so too at first, then I had enough and just thought maybe I can do it. I see others doing what I wanted to do, how can they do it?
Pulling Out Of your Comfort Zone
Not sure about you, but my comfort zone and the fear of rejection made me lose myself. I didn’t realize it at first, but as life moved on and the kids grew up I realized I was lost. I didn’t know what I liked, I didn’t know really who I was besides a mom and a wife.
That is scarier than being rejected, in my book.
“If you’re in a comfort zone, afraid to venture out. Remember that all winners were at one time filled with doubt.”
Author Unknown, from My Comfort Zone
How much would that hurt? A question that you need to ask yourself. How much would it hurt to have those hopes, those decisions turn out to be all for nothing? Who would it hurt, and if no one but me, then why is it holding me back?
I wrote a post awhile back on compromising to fit in.
Strike out for you! It can be painful and hurt, but the satisfaction at the end of the day is worth it. Don’t be average, don’t think like everyone else. You are an individual, no one is truly like you in the whole wide world so, be yourself, think the way you want to.
Your future looks uncertain and feels flimsy, even precarious. That is how it should be. When you are trying to figure out the future, you are only grasping at things that are not yours. Set your goals high and work toward them. This won’t only make you happy, but it will lead you on a path to success for YOU.
Average is a failing formula.
It gets you nowhere.
Would anyone else notice that you failed? And what would you learn from it?
Of course, it’s not for nothing. In fact, It is truly what makes us better.
Where Do you Find Your Value in your Comfort Zone?
Sure, the odds might be against you, but I think that’s a horrible reason to avoid exploring something, or even learning to find something. “Maybe like yourself?”
“Will I get it?”
“Will it work”,
“Will I get noticed?”
is not nearly as good a question as, “Is it worth trying?”
You might get rejected. So what?
Take the Leap out of your comfort zone. Overcome those rejections.
I used to have a comfort zone where I knew I wouldn’t fail. The same four walls and busywork were really more like jail.
Author Unknown
I want to share something with you that I have been learning. Four basic things to help you see where your bounds are, where your fear is and how to overcome those rejections.
I was listening to an audio we have in our back office library. Talking about Value, Belief, and Overcoming Fear. A main focus was on adding value to me and what it is that I have. Finding who I am and where I want that to be or where to take me.
Take action: Action is powerful. When you take that fear head on you move past it quickly. When you avoid it your anxieties of rejection apt to worsen over time. I did realize what I was capable of doing until I tried it. We all can learn.
Learn by failing: Yes change your thinking and look at the rejections differently. You start to think that if I would just do it then it will get easier and getting snubbed is just part of adding more experience. Its like asking someone for that first date…..picking up the phone and setting an appointment…..Getting noticed by a leader….. Approaching someone new at a party……
Invite your fear in. This is like when you are expecting a quest. You prepare your house, maybe a meal, a gathering spot and then are ready. Same with you fear. If you are ready for it, it will not be so bad.
Let yourself be yourself: Here is a book that I found that was fascinating and really sets the meaning straight. Listen up:
“Unhappiness, says bestselling author Harriet Lerner, is fueled by three key emotions: anxiety, fear, and shame. They are the uninvited guests in our lives. When tragedy or hardship hits, they may become our constant companions.
Anxiety can wash over us like a tidal wave or operate as a silent thrum under the surface of our daily lives. With stories that are sometimes hilarious and sometimes heartbreaking, Lerner takes us from “fear lite” to the most difficult lessons the universe sends us.”
To read more Click here….
Life loses its meaning when we get stuck up in a comfort zone.
To keep going and to let yourself really learn how to shine through and become strong we need to be in more pain about the status quo before you are willing to act. At the very least, you need to deeply feel the negative consequences of not acting.
To overcome the fear of being rejected will not happen overnight, but if we are willing to take the first step and see where it is we can go, that fear will already start to fade.
Sandy
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