Things In Life That Teach You

Life is full of lessons, it’s our job to listen and learn.  Hence,  the things in life will teach you.  

 Have you ever thought about the reason why you lose yourself?  In other words, has anyone ever asked you what you like and you can’t come up with an answer?

The first book I ever wrote was called “The Forgotten Women”.  I wrote it to help me find myself again. Why?  When I started an online adventure and needed to blog.  As I asked what to blog about and I was told to write about the things you are interested in.    

I started thinking and could name off things my husband liked and what my kids liked, but when I thought about it, I couldn’t think of what I actually had around me that I liked.   In otherwords, I put myself on the back burner and covered it up.

That realization started a whole new chapter for me.   I was in a pursuit to find me again.  I had buried it so deep and for what reason? Was it being a career mother and wife? Or too many things to do all the time? Hence, I myself was forgotten! 

Tools For You to Gather

Life Was Teaching Me a Change

When I first saw myself, it gave me a sense of calm and excitement all at the same time.  It was great to really see it.  I found my why in life!  My first story is in another post.  Maybe I will rewrite it too.

It took me 5 years to grow but not till after my husband passed away did I truly express the true me.   Yet, I couldn’t tell you why till just the other day when I read an article and it started my thought process.

This article was talking about healing from Narcissistic abuse.   Now I didn’t even imagine that abuse was in my life.  We had a wonderful life, raised two beautiful children and did many things.  Looking forward to the empty nest years, then he was diagnosed with cancer.  

I can’t say, or maybe don’t even believe it, that my husband was a narcissist, yet this article opened up my life.  However, I can say it was probably partly my fault for not seeing or correcting it early on.

Life Lessons

Here is what I started to see.

1. 1. 1. 1.  I had a new sparkle in my eyes.  There wasn’t anything holding me down.  I was at peace, not trying to please others or the fear of doing something wrong.  I have been getting more compliments that I look great.   

1. 1. 1. 1.  It was always hard to go to social events because I had to go alone and make excuses, so I just stopped going.   I shed away from hearing stories, always seemed to tell my own so I wouldn’t have to feel bad for not being invited.  

1. 1. 1. 1.  It was hard at first, so I kept it in one room of the house.  I redecorated.  In other words,  I brought in things that I liked.  Not things we bought together for that was a compromise.   I analyzed each piece and gave it some deep thought.

Tools For You to Gather

See The Life Change

I started to grow ever so slowly.  It was showing some tension in our relationship which I loved and my thought process was still holding on to the life we had built.   Since then, wow.  Life has come to a 90 degree angle.   When I sold my house and moved, life became completely different and you can see me in every corner.

Life is full of lessons. Relationships are complicated and yes you need to compromise, but from the lessons life taught me, don’t lose your personality.  Keep your dreams alive.  Hence, you have a value to share with others, don’t hide it. Things that life that teach you are all around.

Keep smiling

Sandy

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