I found myself the other day frustrated and compelled. I wanted more stimulation from an activity, and caught myself thinking others would pull me down. In other words, I was on a path leading to something and I wasn’t as good as I thought. Reality Focus: is it on me or others.
Wow, that was a selfish thought. It’s not up to others to push me to be better. I alone need the focus to improve. Hence a good competition is good, but to truly improve you need to put in the effort and not think you are already better. It takes time to master a task.
Finding Yourself In The Crowd
Have you ever sat down and really studied something? You know, read a bunch of books, get workbooks for tests and practice. Then got all hyped up and thought you knew what to do? A good coach can tell you otherwise.
That is called getting a big head, way ahead of yourself. I was putting the cart before the horse. Yet, let’s give ourselves some credit, you might know more than some that fly by the seat of their pants. And it is good to push to achieve what you want.
I needed to come down off the ladder a little. I was ready to compete! But, reality is, I still have work to do. In other words, If you are going to compete, do it with yourself first. Others will start to push you to do better when the time comes. Finding myself in the crowd.
Me Or Others
Found an article that helped: The researchers suggest that activities focused on others and activities focused on ourselves could impact our well-being through different routes. Other-focused acts might boost “eudaimonic” well-being, the kind that comes from a sense of purpose and meaning. On the other hand, they suggest that self-focused behaviors could bring us “hedonic” well-being (feelings of happiness and enjoyment).
Comparing yourself to other people is the form of comparison that gets all the attention, but it’s not the one that causes the most damage in our pursuit of potential. There’s actually an even worse source of comparison that trips people up. The crazy thing is we never see it coming. Do you know who you really should compare yourself to? … Yourself
Finding Intention
I have written many posts on “Giving yourself permission”. It is one thing I had to work on in my life. Thinking that is why I dived into this obsession and wanted to succeed so badly. Hence, a reality check was needed in finding my intention of what I want and what I need. Then going after it, but not at the expense of friendships.
Smiling along the way is always a great help to keep you defined in your focus. For instance, You don’t have to be serious all the time. A funny thing about potential, it’s never gone. It’s always waiting. It’s always available and it’s always willing to be redeemed at a moment’s notice.
True Focus
Finding something to focus on and pursue is a great adventure and we should always strive to do better. Keep going, study and push yourself all you want. Yet, make the challenges for yourself and seek out ways to improve.
Focus on your ability and don’t skip the friendship of others for you might think they will hold you down. I have a saying I read “don’t tell others your goals, show them your accomplishments”. Keep growing every day and life will push you along.
Keep going
Sandy
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